Friends. Family. Anyone it applies to.
I have no time for them.
Yet I’ve a friend who’s exactly that. Couldn’t cull her. I actually care for her.
Been friends for over 30 years.
She’s a spoilt brat. But also had great many a tragedy happen to her. Lost her sister – at a very young age – to cancer. Lost her brother to murder. Lost her fiancé in an accident. Her mum’s now got cancer too. The dad’s suffering from a heart condition. Eish.
We’ve stuck it through thick and thin.
Even a few arguments.
I choose to ignore her when she throws tantrums. And because I understand her – or believe I do – I let a lot of indiscretions slide.
But a few weeks ago I’d had enough.
I told her something in confidence and explained that I’d like to keep it that way. It was something I – being MY bit of news – would prefer to share with family and friends at my pace.
She couldn’t keep her trap shut.
So I sent her a nice sms to tell her I didn’t appreciate her blabbing and she should desist spreading the word immediately.
I don’t think she liked my tone of voice. “Laat dit goed gaan met jou”
WTF??!!
Did my sms warrant such a kak response?
I left it. I didn’t have the krag to take her on.
Now I do
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Comments on: "High Maintenance…" (46)
Personal space is a massively important friendship tool, use it wisely!
So you saying I should leave it? Give her (more) space?
I recently have had a similar experience, it was hard but i have cut all ties with her, good luck…
Ek weet Kimme-tjomma, maar voel dit nie groot genoeg om ‘n goeie vriendskap oor te laat sneuwel nie…miskien voel sy anders?xxx
Thanks for the visit, Purdy. I really don’t wish to end the friendship and hopes she sees my point of viewIf i cut ties with her i have 2.5 friends left! 😉
hmmm, I reckon I’m not gonna give advice on this one, too personal, will just wish you luck instead!
It’s a difficult one Dizzy. Perhaps you must be careful what you share with her in future.
friendship is also about setting boundaries. you set one it was breached. best to talk about it openly face to face. sms or email not a good medium for such conversations
No, she should have given you the space you asked for by shutting her mouth till you were ready.
Breach of confidence to me is the deal breaker every time!! I wish you luck Dizzy!
Breach of confidence to me is the deal breaker every time!! I wish you luck Dizzy!
No man!! Spoilsport.
You’re right. It does make me wonder what else she’s been loose-lipped about
Thanks Madmom!
Agreed! Sorry, needed to be sure 😉
I agree. Was going to call her, but maybe a proper f2f is best. She can’t hide…
I know, doll, this is why I was so pissed off. Being a friend, one should know when to shurrup, right? Especially if someone actually says “please don’t tell…”xxxx
ditto! 😉
Sounds like this friendship is very one-sided, however if you want to retain it I suggest that some straight talking is needed. If she still does not take ownership of what she has done – CULL!
lol!! Evil woman! ;)Sad to hear, but you might be right
You just need to sit down and chat so she can get over her kak and you can be friends again!
Eina love this is rough…I have been through heartbreaks by my friends and things never really remain the same….so keep in mind that although you will make up you might not kiss 😦
so many friendships have ended like this… repair if you can… save what you can…that’s if you really want to.
Think so too. But seeing some of the opinions, I might just be a fool for being optimistic 😦
lol!
If she’d just listened, we would not be here. Daft girl ;)Thanks
lol! I gathered as much 😉
We’ve had a good friendship up to now – but that’s merely coz’ I’m patient and indulgent with her. But seeing her from other’s perspectives is making me wonder who the fool is here… 😦
there is never an excuse for breach of trust in a friendship – no matter what a hard life you’ve had. she of all ppl should understand that. i’m with you.
Eish! some friends
Eish… solly Dizzy. She needs to catch a wake up!Plum
Next time be careful what you share with her since you cannot cull her. I see she has been through a lot so blabbing others news only makes her feel better unfortunately.
Go make some noise Diz, that’s just not on 😦
I’m starting to believe I should not share anything with her. Thus relegate her to “acquaintance” status
lol! Thanks anyways!
…must not have the label “friend”
Putting this issue out there has opened my eyes as well. I’m not liking what I’m seeing…
And to think i was about to convince myself i could’ve handled it differently! Don’t think so anymorexxx
This sounds omminous…a real storm coming!!Krag meisiekind!!
she cant keep her mouth quiet hon, so you have to haul her in and tell her … I wish you the best with her…but for me , she is not a true friend.. *hugs* hon mucho love
You go girl!!! Glad I’m not on the receiving end of this… *Linnie breathes a sigh of relief*
I feel really sorry for your friend that she had to endure such terrible times. I have learnt that people that have been through so much in life tend to have emotional problems that others don’t grasp. People tend to think that they are selfish but in actual fact they go through hell in life.Ultimately it is your dedcision if you would like to stay friends. If you truly feel she is a back-stabber rather end it for good because if you feel negative it is not a true friendship. Sterkte!!!
Dankie Jeaniexxx
lol!! And you better not….!
Sometimes I wonder if that’s why I ignore the small things – or what I perceive as small things, but like you and many others have said – I need to re-evaluate this friendship and decide if it is really worth itxxx
Oi, Santana, seeing her from other’s perspectives is an eye-opener :(xxx