Why do people stay in abusive (physical or emotional) relationships?
I don’t limit this to women, because we all know that abuse is not limited to women any longer.
Is it insecurity?
Is it love?
Is it because of the children?
Is it because we are financially dependant on them?
Scared of being alone?
Is it dependency?
Answered yes to any of these?
So what would happen if he or she died. How would you cope on your own then?
These people prey on your weakness and your insecurities. They work hard at finding it, and instead of helping you deal with it, they exploit it to their advantage. To mask their failures. Because if you saw through their bullying, you would recognize it for what it is. But they never let up, do they?
And it’s all about control – controlling you. Who you know. What you do, where you go. They thrive on making you dependent on them, so there’s no one else you can turn to.
It’s YOUR fault. You should be a better wife, mother, person, provider. You’re not clever enough, pretty or witty enough.
Newsflash: IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. HE or SHE has the problem. YOU need to end the cycle.
A friend is in an emotionally abusive relationship. She doesn’t see it. But you never do, right? There’s always an excuse why he’s criticising. Why he’s constantly angry. Why he’s never there. Why he belittles you. She questions me, yet I want to help her.
What will it take for my friend? It’s been carrying on for years. When will it end? Will it end with her going off her rocker? Or will someone else be the catalyst? I sincerely hope so.
I changed my situation and myself. I was still able to. Some are not so lucky.