I had the final interview with the CEO in Deutschland last week and he asked some tough questions – like – will Boo be able to adjust in a new country being a househusband?
Boo will probably not be able to get permanent employment – for obvious reasons – the only possibility is to get an internal transfer from his current position to a branch there. The prospects do not look good on that front. Or he can do bar-tending or become a waiter. HAH. This I want to see!
Although this is something I have contemplated – no kidding?! Just for the past 5 years!!– it seems he had not thought this through quite as thoroughly as I have. It was a shocker when I asked him about this (again) and took him through all possible scenarios.
Yet he is still positive that he will be OK. I have serious misgivings.
From my perspective – once the euphoria wears off, and should he not get a job in a few months – will he still feel like the “head of the house” and “manly” knowing that he is dependant on me for his livelihood? That he is the key in ensuring that everything on the home-front continues as clockwork? That we both (probably for a while) won’t have any friends and a support system to speak of? That this might affect him more than me? Will he be able to settle into a new country with a different vibe and culture? This is asking for depression and loads of fights.
Which means this will put major strain on our relationship.
I am not too worried about the kids – it will be disruptive for them, but once they settle into school and make new friends (which I am sure they will not have a problem with) and with our support, I am positive they will adjust well. But I’m not so confident about Boo.
Am I ready for this? Will I be able to deal with him being a househusband? Already I have feelings of superiority in this relationship (yah, I know, shit happens!) and I am sure this will increase x 10. Will I be able to accept him not contributing financially? What happens if his brain turns to mush?
I have to give them my final decision by next week. They will make their decision by mid September. If I get it, I have to report for duty in January ’10.
Oh dear. Not as exciting now, is it?
Hope you guys have an awesome weekend
We have some serious things to think about…..