….And no, I will not be quoting that well known poem by that equally well known poet….
Yesterday Miss Naughty blogged about that thing called unconditional love and posed quite an interesting argument around it…I missed the debate completely, but it got me thinking about it a bit….this is my take on love itself…
Once I’ve found a kindred spirit, I love deeply…sometimes unconditionally and sometimes not. But once I’ve given the gift of my love & devotion (sexually or not) I am yours for as long as you will have me…All I ask is that you accept me as I am, damaged, outspoken, demanding, quiet (on occasion), raucous on most, with crooked teeth and all….and that you not betray that love; you can be assured of my undying devotion and loyalty…
I loved my dogs (Scratchy, Sneezy and Bubbles) unconditionally….
they didn’t expect much, just that I feed them, care for them and not scream at them too much.
they hated my brother though.
I was very sad when they died (actually one was stolen, one poisoned, one bumped by a car)
I love my children unconditionally despite
Their sometimes irritating talkativeness
Their downright contrariness
Through the white lies (why do they think they can get away with it?)
Their moodswings (sounds like someone I know)
Even when they anger me
Or disappoint me or sadden me
That bond was formed way before I even gave birth, I will fight fiercely to protect them any way I know how….it is sometimes irrational…unexplainable…. it’s just one of those things….
I love my siblings despite
Their conditions imposed on me (what to say, when, and how)
Whether I see them or not
Whether they are what I expect them to be or not
The drama & trauma they’ve put me through
I love my dad despite
Not being the father I thought him to be
Not being the father I wanted him to be
I have learnt to trust him, believe in him with flaws and all
All he asks is that I love him in return
I love all my friends
Past or present
Here or departed
Whether I hear from them or not
They always have a place in my heart
Except the ones who betrayed me…they’re all buried somewhere (joke)
My extended family…
I just love because of who they are
My husband….its complicated…but I am getting there slowly but surely….I am committed to him
I loved my mom conditionally
Before I really knew her
Once I got to know her my love for her was unsurpassable…
No ifs ands or buts
No holds barred….
Once I love it is for keeps, it is with no reservations….
Betrayal is the only cure for this ailment called love…once you’ve passed that boundary…a door will be closed…I may forgive you, but I may never love you the same or ever again….
And that is love in my life…
Have a fab day everyone