Yesterday on the Fresh
Pie Drive, the topic of discussion was teasing / being bullied. But their message came across that teasing is bullying (that’s how I interpreted it anyway). The dictionary says
teased, teas·ing, teas·es.
- To annoy or pester; vex.
- To make fun of; mock playfully
- To arouse hope, desire, or curiosity in without affording satisfaction.
A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.
So does teasing necessarily lead to bullying or does bullying include teasing and name calling? Maybe? But anyone who’s ever been on the receiving end knows that – as a child – its no fun. You ask yourself “Why me?” What did I do to deserve this? This is how I look, talk, laugh, whatever, why do you think you can make fun of me?
It is probably fine if its done on occasion. But if it happens every single day of your life, it obviously affects you and you become reticent and completely withdraw from people. Worst is – just when you think “Ok, there’s no more names they can come up with to call me”, they flippenwell do. Which means that these bullies / teasers are quite intelligent, don’t you think? To look at someone every day and come up with strings of derogatory words to call you. I feel sorry for kids that have to go through this. On the other hand, here is the opportunity for kids to start asserting themselves at an early age and not take things like this lying down. Grow a
spine backbone very early in life
This is why we’ve gone on the defensive and started teasing (in a nice way of course) our kids so they can deal with it earlier and make peace with their unique features etc. They’ve obviously got the best of both worlds – SO’s big ears and nose, and my long chin (thank goodness they didn’t get the big forehead and crooked teeth). So dumbo, big ears, antennae, sattellite, lang-ken (long/big chin), jaws are words that get used quite regularly. And it has helped. They get teased at school and they handle it remarkably well. Sure, it wasn’t easy at first ‘coz its different to when mom or dad teases you.
Here’s what I was called (and I’m not making this up)
Knersus – you may remember the kiddies program featuring this dinosaur dude with the teeth
Jaws – no guesses why :o)
Pizza face (probably the most hurtful at the time)
Mina Moo – another kiddies program
Dikkop (big head)
Dunlop (big butt)
Pippie Lang Kous (another kids program, also didn’t mind that one)
Butt face (shame, still feel sorry for myself for this one)
The Shining (big forehead)
There wasn’t a day that went by without some idiot thinking he could poke fun at me. And of course, being kids, everyone else thought it was hilarious. I even caught my friends laughing on occasion. So all in all not very condusive to a good self-image, eh?
So what were the worst names you were called?